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Keeping Him First

There’s a lot of talk about priorities.

In this post, I’m sharing the reason why I don’t use the word priorities. Instead we’ll talk about having one priority and what that looks like in your day to day life.

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Our Priorities

We have been talking about growing in Christ and part of growing in Christ is keeping Him first. We’re going to talk about the idea of having priorities in our lives.

I’m not a fan of the word priorities myself, because I prefer to use the singular, priority. There can only be one #1 thing in our lives.

I think we struggle with this idea because we want so many important things to be a part of our priorities, like our health, families, marriages, etc.

The thing is, if they are all a priority, then nothing really is.

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So, the main topic of today is how to create a singular priority in our lives, and I will share with you how I chose to create a method for myself that helped me keep the Lord first above everything.

There Can Only Be One

We can only have one priority, and that priority has to be the Lord. We are not capable of having more than one priority.

God, on the other hand, is above us and can have tons of priorities. When God is our only priority, we can shift our mindset to start valuing what He values.

I want to give you an example of that. Imagine having six plates. On each plate, you have a different type of food like mashed potatoes on one, turkey on another. Imagine trying to carry all of those plates to the table– by yourself.

That is what it is like when we try to balance more than one priority. It’s balancing a bunch of different plates while trying to keep things from falling off, and honestly, it’s REALLY difficult to do.

When you choose God as your only priority and start to value what He values, instead of having six plates, you have one plate with each of the six food items on it. It’s so much easier to carry and keep track of, isn’t it? The reason for this is because He is balancing for us.

What Does God Value?

Our Relationship

God values your relationship with Him.

We are His number one priority, and He will always be focused on us. As soon as we start cultivating our relationship with Him by seeking Him, He will give us the ability to balance everything else in our lives so that they fall perfectly into place.

Our Health

This isn’t something you hear people talking about all that often, but God does value our health.

He values the way that your body feels because the state of your health affects every other aspect of your life. It can affect your work, your marriage and family life, and it will affect your ministry.

We need to make sure we are doing things that are good for our health, like avoiding fast food restaurants, drinking more water, getting better rest, and more.

Don’t focus on losing weight because, like making God your priority, if you focus on making better choices with your health, the weight will begin to come off as well, often without you even realizing it.

Our Marriage

God values our marriages.

Notice that I am putting marriage before children in this list. This may seem off for you, and I may get some flack about it, but allow me to explain myself.

God values marriage because marriage is meant to point people to Him. Marriage is a symbol of who He is here on Earth. Not to mention, spirituality aside, our relationships with our spouses directly affect our children as well.

If we are always putting our children above our spouse, our children are going to notice the distance, especially if that distance causes problems in your marriage.

By valuing your marriage as God does, you are cultivating your relationship with your husband, and your children will positively benefit from it. It will teach them the value of love, friendship, patience, understanding, and so much more. Those lessons will be carried on with them in their own relationships in the future.

Our Children

The next area of our life that God values are our children.

Like I said above, it is important to make sure that you are putting this in the correct order because putting your marriage first will positively benefit your children as well as your marriage.

Most of the time, the opposite does not work the same way. Neglecting your marriage may lead to a distance that may have the potential to end your marriage, thus, it is so important to make sure that you are paying attention to this and trust God to guide you in it.

When you value your children, you are valuing their health which covers physical, emotional, and spiritual health.

No child is too young to begin learning God’s word, and you can share with them in so many different ways. My boys memorize scripture on a weekly basis, but you can choose to read a story of the Bible together instead.

Do whatever works for your family, just so long as you make sure that you are filling their cups with God’s word.

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Our Homes

God also values our homes.

This might seem out of place, but your home is a safe haven for your family. It’s also a launching pad for your family. I pray for my boys to be “kingdom changers”, and this all begins in the home.

When I began thinking this way, we started living our lives a little bit differently. We turn off the TV most nights until after our boys go to bed so that we can spend as much time with them as possible. In addition, we often bring them to work with us on the days that they don’t have school, so they are learning how to work.

For many years, I was worried about the influence that the world might have on my children, but I began to change my thoughts and I started thinking “I don’t just want my kids to survive in this world, I want them to thrive.”

I started praying in an offensive way instead of a defensive one, and it really helped to make me more intentional about how we were spending our time at home.

In addition, our home provides me the opportunity to be a sounding board for my husband, giving me the chance to be the best wife that I can be.

Our Work

Another thing that God values is our work.

God values hard work, but that doesn’t mean you have to be toiling and sweating the day away in order to have a hard day’s work.

While that does qualify, ultimately, a hard day’s work is also consistently putting in the effort to better yourself, provide for your family, and giving of yourself.

The Great Commission

This all leads to our ultimate mission, and that is the great commission.

God values our service and impact on the Kingdom of God. That is why we are here.

You have a ministry and an influence in this kingdom right now. Once you see value in that, you’re going to start seeing things change in your life. You’re going to start having a heart for people, even those you don’t know, like those outside your family.

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Remember to Keep the Lord First

Once we keep the Lord first, He will show us what He values.

Instead of coming into a day thinking about our long list of tasks, we’re going to wake up saying, “God, I’m ready to be used by you in my daily agenda today.”

As we go throughout our day, keeping Him first, we’re going to find that all the other pieces– all the things God values– will fall into a place of balance. We’ll no longer be struggling to carry all those plates. Instead, we will have the One plate.

My Gift to You

This leads me to the gift that I mentioned at the start of the post. It is a mini-course called Graceful Balance and it talks to you about the idea of putting the Lord as your priority and figuring out the things that He values.

It also includes a module that will help you to reorganize your to-do list and explains how keeping God first really helps to change your to-do list.

We read about Jesus saying “It is finished.” Now, every person hadn’t been healed, and not every person had been fed or touched. All of this is included in the mini-course and it will help you to begin simplifying your processes at home so that it can be a safe haven for your family. It’s all completely free. All you have to do is click the link and enroll. It doesn’t require a credit card or anything like that. You just have to enroll so you can get the online access.

I also want to mention another program I have called The Supermom Roadmap. It has a ton of resources for moms including devotions, video lessons, and even activity pages for your kids.

Another module that is popular for moms is called Hidden in my Heart. It contains all the verses that my boys are currently memorizing and contains audios of them all as well as a downloadable sheet. If you’d like, you can also track it online as your child learns verses.

I hope you enjoyed this post. If you have a question or comment, then go ahead and send me an email to [email protected], or you can connect with me over on Facebook or Instagram. I’d love to hear from you. Until then, I’ll see you next week.

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