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Him > Me

We all have a war going on inside of us. It’s a war between our spirit and our flesh. Between our sinful selves and Christ’s will for our lives.

We have to make sure our flesh doesn’t win. And the way we do that is by feeding the side that we want to win the battle. In this post I tell you how you can do just that!

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We have been focusing on growing our relationship with the Lord, staying filled, how to be humble and imitating the humility of Christ.

This post is based from John 3:30, “He must increase, I must decrease.” I love this, because this is really what being a Christian is in a nutshell.

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I’m going to start by telling you a story. Cold Turkey is teaching his grandson about life. He’s telling the boy, “A fight is going on inside me. It’s a terrible fight, and it’s between two wolves.

One is evil, he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogant, self-pity, guilt, resentments, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

Cold Turkey continued, “The other wolf is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, and benevolence. He is empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

He told his grandson the same fight is going on inside every other person, too. The grandson was quiet for a moment. He thought about it, and then he asks his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

Cold Turkey replied, “The one that you feed.”

There is a spiritual battle going on inside each of us.

Galatians 5:17 says, “For the flesh desires what’s contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what’s contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do what you want.”

On our own, the flesh is going to win. We’re in a world where the flesh is fed all the time.

Praise the Lord that we are made new in Christ and we’re not on our own. With Jesus we can make choices to let the flesh decrease so that our spirit and the Lord can increase in our lives.

Are you Feeding your flesh or your spirit?

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Think about the way that you spend your time, money, and even the way even that you think.

For an example, I started watching a TV show, and it progressively got worse. After a few days, the language was even starting to come into my dreams. I realized that by not being intentional about what I was watching, I had made the decision to feed the wrong side of me.

So I found a Bible audio and started playing it. I listened to it again and again. I found that made such a huge difference. The words that were coming in to my mind from that old show were gone.

I was listening to God’s Word and I was filling my heart with it. I was feeding my spirit with it. My spirit got stronger and my flesh got weaker.

Another area that sometimes we end up feeding the flesh more than the spirit is the friends that we spend time with. It’s been said that we’re the average of the five people that we spend the most time with.

There is a perfect example that came up in my life recently. I was at a meeting where I was surrounded with women who were all striving to serve the Lord. I left that meeting feeling so uplifted, having a new sense of purpose, having a new expectation for what God was going to do this year because I have been spending time with women who were like-minded and like-hearted.

That experience contrasts to another experience that I had recently. My husband and I sat down to dinner with some old friends that we hadn’t seen in a long time.

As we sat and chatted with them, I found myself feeling more and more down. It had nothing to do with their personalities. There’s just a huge difference between spending time with people who are on fire for the Lord and people who aren’t.

You need both relationships in your life. You need people who are going to spur you forward, and you need to be a person who spurs other people forward in their walk with the Lord. Remember who you are and be secure and confident in your relationship with the Lord.

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Another area that we can be feeding our flesh or our spirit, and sometimes doing it without thinking about it, is in the thoughts that we’re thinking.

Many times we get the false impression that we can’t decide what we think about, that we don’t have any control over the thoughts that come in.

Partially that’s true, but we do have a choice whether they stay in.

Martin Luther said “You cannot keep birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.”

What he is saying is we might not have to much control over the thoughts that might fly into our minds, but we have a choice whether or not we entertain those thoughts.

You have the choice to let the thoughts run wild in your mind or you have the ability to make the thoughts come under obedience to the Lord and under the truth of God’s word.

I have a perfect example of this. I ran to the grocery store in the morning. The grocery store always seems to put the fresh out of the oven donuts right by the door. I have an issue with gluten as I was diagnosed with Celiac disease a while back, so eating a donut would definitely damage my body.

For a minute I thought “Man, that would really taste good.” Then I thought “I am not going to let this thought fester in my mind. I am going to walk past it and pick up the things that are on my list.”

And I did.

I know it seems like a really silly example, but with every thought that comes in to your mind you have the choice to say, “I’m going to keep thinking this thought or I’m going to choose not to think it at all.”

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The opposite of this is just letting your thoughts run wild.

One area that I’ve seen this over and over is in self-esteem and the idea of looks. It can be easy to say “I’m ugly.” or “I can’t do anything right.”, or “I’m just not capable of doing what God wants me to do.”

You can say “I am not going to accept this is truth, because I know what the Bible says about me.” As we do that, we are feeding our spirit and really making our flesh weaker and weaker.

You can be intentional about feeding your spirits and you will see growth in your relationship with the Lord whenever you do this. His Word is powerful and whenever we apply it to our lives, we’re going to be living in that power as well.

A Gift for You

I am giving you all a free gift. It is something that I believe will feed you spirit, because knowing the truth of God’s Word is going to feed your spirit more than anything.

I created a digital Bible reading plan. It’s a one year plan, and each day gives you what chapter you need to read. It comes out to about three chapters a day, which might take you 15 minutes each day depending on the chapter.

To keeps track of what verses and what chapters you’ve already read, you’ll need to create an account and enroll. You don’t need to put in a credit card number or anything like that, though, because it’s completely FREE.

The link is in the resources below.

Links and Resources

Digital Bible Reading Plan | Ashley Varner