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How to Give and Avoid Burnout | You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup

I know you, sister.  You are on the verge of burnout. You are someone who gives of yourself EVERY DAY.  Before work, you make lunches and run errands. You visit grieving friends. At work you help a coworker figure out a computer issue. On the weekends you minister at your church, you give and give and give.
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And you enjoy it.  You love serving, you know it pleases God and it makes you happy, too.  So you may wonder why you feel burnt out.  You even start to feel guilty because you feel burnt out.  I mean, aren’t we working as unto the Lord?
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This problem comes when our cup runs dry.  We give and give and suddenly it feels like we’ve got nothing left.

How to NOT burn out…

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Some people may tell you that if you’re burnt out, then you need to stop giving, you need to pull back from every obligation that you’ve put on yourself.  And while I agree that sometimes we need to reassess and determine if we need to take somethings off our plate, I don’t think that will fix the problem.
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The trick to not burning out is to only give from your overflow.  I read a quote by an author named Melissa Ambrosini that said, “Fill yourself up first and give from the overflow.  It is only then you can truly give.”
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How wise!  You don’t have to stop giving, you just have to give from your OVERFLOW.
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Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you will all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
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That’s the secret!  We go to the Lord, ask Him to fill us to overflowing, and then from that overflow, we give to others.
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Ways to be Filled to Overflowing

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First, go to the Source.

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We need to go to the Lord daily.  Especially when you’re giving of yourself.  If you’re teaching God’s word, or you’re reaching others and helping others (whether your ministry is at home, at work, or at church), you MUST be getting time with the Lord.
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Not just in study, but in quiet times with Him. Letting Him tell you what He thinks of you. Spending time with Him, building that relationship, because that’s what it truly is.  A relationship.
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Another benefit to going to the Lord is that we learn new lessons.  We grow in our journey, and those lessons can be shared with the people that we continue to minister to.
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Second, we can celebrate.

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When was the last time you celebrated you? Awhile back, I accomplished a goal I had been working towards. A mentor emailed me and said, “I’m so excited to hear how you celebrate that this weekend!” I read that line over and over, because I hadn’t even thought to celebrate it.
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It’s not just huge goals we can celebrate, it’s the small things too. After a week of cooking dinner every night, why not celebrate with a bubble bath?  After meeting a deadline at work, why not have lunch with a friend?
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At the root of celebrating you is an inner acknowledgement that everything have DONE is because of God. So in reality, you’re celebrating Him, you’re giving Him the glory for the great things He has done and the body He’s given you. In the Old Testament, He tells the Israelites to set up markers of remembrance. They were physical reminders of what God had done in the lives of His people.
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If God has called you to do something and you set a goal to get there, and then you meet that goal, you need to celebrate!  It doesn’t need to be an expensive trip to the Bahamas. It could be as simple as a new Bible Journal or a framed piece of art for your home.  Anything that you can see or look back on that says, “Look what God did.”
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So when that mentor asked me how I would celebrate, I bought a pair of nice sunglasses, now every time I get in the car and put them on, I’m reminded of how God enabled me to accomplish that goal.
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Third, we need to take physical care of our selves.

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I have to admit, when I used to hear the words “self-care” I would roll my eyes.  I would envision someone like the Queen of Sheba lying on a pillow while people fanned her, massed her feet, and fed her grapes. But self-care doesn’t have to mean self-indulgent.
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Usually the people who give the most of themselves to others, end up being the very people who don’t give anything to themselves.  Just like celebrating, it doesn’t have to be some expensive thing.  You don’t have to take a 7 day trip to a spa to take care of yourself, self-care and relaxation comes in the small things.
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Let me give you an example:

I wear sandals almost everyday from March to October. But my heels become dry and cracked pretty quickly.  The other day, I stood up and realized that my foot hurt because the cracks in my heels had become so extensive.  I had been neglecting my self-care.
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Some (inaccurate) thoughts came into my mind, I had told myself that because I had two little boys that I couldn’t justify taking an hour off to get a pedicure, but I felt the the Lord say, “Ashley, how do you expect to take care of your sons if you can’t take care of you.”
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I realized that self-care is about being a good steward.  Just like the airplane instructions we all have to listen to before a flight, once the oxygen masks drop, put your mask on first, then help others.  It’s impossible to take care of anyone else, if you’re not first taking care of yourself. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
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Because of that fact, I have to take care of me, not in a selfish way, in a wise way.  So when I went to get that pedicure, I wasn’t on my phone trolling Facebook, I was listening to worship music on my headphones, lying back and taking the time to recharge.
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Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive.  There are plenty of things you can do to take care of yourself that don’t cost a dime.
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In fact, I put together a list of 45 things you can do to take care of YOU, all are either free or under $45.
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Sometimes it’s our fear that stops us…

Part of taking care of ourselves involves healing unhealthy relationships in our lives. I’m not just talking about our relationships with other people, what about our relationship with our bodies and food?

We let our emotions dictate our worth, we allow food to make us feel guilty, and we allow cravings to even tell us what types of foods we like. One of the best “self-care” steps I took was to give up diets, invite the Lord into my health, and find a better way to eat.

I get it.  You’re tired of being overweight and unhappy. And you long for more, you want to enjoy shopping again. With all your heart, you want to be that mom that goes outside and has the energy to play with her kids.  You want all those things but you’re afraid to invest in your own self-care.

I understand how you feel because I was exactly the same way.  But, by the grace of God, my life is completely different than it was even a year ago!  I want that for you!  When you add faith to the mis, you can be free from diets, free from hating your body, and draw CLOSER to the One who made your body at the same time!

I did the hard work and put together an online course to teach you how to eat the way God intended. Now, all you have to do is invest in yourself and choose freedom.  This course is twelve weeks of video lessons and worksheets for you to do at your own pace.  AND…it’s all based on God’s Word.

Nothing to lose…

FAITH FOOD FREEDOM isn’t another diet, it’s a way to bring the lord into your heath.  Find out more HERE. What do you have to lose?

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