23 Jul 15 Ideas for a Date Night with Your Child
We all want to know that someone we love wants to spend quality time with us. Just like we might crave one on one time with our spouse or friend, our kids crave that time with us. Having a date night with your child is a great way to fill that craving.
But how do you fit in special time with each child? And what do you do with that time? Today, I’m sharing why you need to prioritize this AND 15 ideas for kid date night.
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Why Your Kid Needs a Date Night with You
Our children need a time with us where they can have our full attention. They need to know that we don’t just love them, but that we like them, too. They need to know that we enjoy being with them.
This will do several things:
- Build their confidence and self-esteem
- Open lines of communication
- Build lasting relationships
- Remind them that they are loved
One on one time with your children will speak volumes to their heart.
How to Have a Date Night With Your Child
Find Out What Your Child Wants to Do.
The easiest way to make your date night successful is to figure out what your unique child will enjoy doing.
One of my sons loves to build with blocks, so I might take him to a store that lets you build with Legos and then buy them by the ounce. My other son loves chess, so I might take him to a coffee shop for a smoothie and a game of chess.
Your child is unique, and this date is about doing something your child enjoys. So, find the date night activity that your kid will love.
Put Down the Phone and Be Present With Your Child.
Don’t waist this time with your child by being distracted.
Your children know when you aren’t really listening to them. Put down your phone, push aside your other thoughts, and use this time to focus on your child.
One great way to do this is to focus on asking your child questions. Doing this instead of simply telling your child things will help your child feel like you are interested in him/her.
Ideas for Kid Date Night
Date nights with your child can be small. They don’t have to cost a lot of money or take a lot of time. Your children will enjoy the time with you more than they will the activity.
There are several things that my family enjoys doing:
Visiting the Coffee Shop (During School!)
I don’t usually advocate for skipping school, but on certain occasions, I permit it.
When we started fostering, having new kids in the house was difficult for my boys. I knew they needed extra time with me, so I planned a special surprise.
I didn’t tell them I was going to, but I went to their school early and had them called out of their classrooms. Then I took them to the local coffee shop so we could get smoothies together.
This was very special to them, and I think they’ll remember it for a long time.
At Home Date Nights
Date nights don’t even have to mean leaving your house. If you have a lot of children, you may need to stay home for your date night. Just make sure that you are still making the time personal.
Here are several ideas:
- At home pampering (mani and pedi)
- Bake their favorite treats
- Making a craft
- play a game
- Play dress up
- Read together
- Wash the car
- Plan an indoor windowsill herb garden
- Kids Choice for dinner
Date Night Outings
If you want to make date night extra special, head out of the house. Going to another location may make date night more exciting for you children, and they will notice the extra effort.
- Trail walk
- Library visit (possibly during a reading)
- Going to the movies
- Let your child pick a restaurant to get lunch
- Going to the park
- Bike ride
- Laser tag
- Attend a sporting even
- Volunteer together
- Try an escape room
Let Your Child Know That You Like Him/Her
Once you’ve had your date night, make sure you end it on a good note.
Don’t forget to tell your child that you enjoyed being with them. Make sure your child knows that you didn’t just do this because you had to as a mom, but because you genuinely like spending time with them.
Take It One Step Further…
Do you know your child’s love language?
You may have heard of Dr. Gary Chapman. He wrote ‘The 5 Love languages for children’, and I highly recommend it.
Knowing your child’s love language can make a huge difference in spending quality time with them. If you know your child’s love language is touch, then snuggle time might be best. If it is words of affirmation, then maybe you need to spend time talking.
The principles in this book have even helped improve my marriage.
I can’t wait to talk to next time, but until then, have a blessed day.