27 Aug What Does the Bible Say About Motherhood?
Today I want to talk to you about what God says about motherhood.
Our culture and the world may say one thing about motherhood, but their view on being a mom is not the same as God’s. If we want to be intentional parents who mother with a purpose, we need to know what the Word says about us.
To be the best mothers we can be, we will need God’s help.
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Motherhood is a Calling
Mothers fill a unique and crucial role in our society, and children need their mothers for their well-being.
In Titus 2:3-4, the Bible list being a mother as a calling. When Titus is talking to the older women, he tells them to teach the younger women to love their husbands and children.
Loving your husband and children is a calling, and the Bible instructs you to do so.
The Bible tells us to be self-controlled and pure, busy at home, kind, and subject to our husbands.
There is a reason for all of this. Titus 2:5 says it is so that “that the word of God may not be reviled”.
The Bible Values Motherhood
The Bible does not look down on mothers. It tells us that we are called and that our job is important. The world, and even some Christians, view motherhood as being a chore or an unpleasant task.
Because of this negative view of motherhood, many women these days are choosing not to have children. While this is fine if you feel like God has other plans for you, it is sad to see women not wanting children because the world has portrayed them as a burden.
The Bible says in Psalm 127:3, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”
If you have children, your calling is to your children and your husband, and there is nothing wrong with that. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom, work-from-home mom, or you work outside of the house, your calling as a mother and wife has to take top priority.
The Bible Tells Us to Teach Our Children
In the world, we see a lot of big name celebrities having their children raised by full-time nannies or boarding schools, and this can seem like a desirable way to raise children.
Yet, I think the Bible has something to say about that.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”
The Bible is telling us to take the time to teach our children. My husband and I call those moments “teachable moments”.
We recently had a teachable moment with one of our foster children. The child disobeyed playground rules and went outside the fence. My husband took the time to explain to the child safety and protection.
Instead of just putting a child in time out, taking the time to talk to the child and making a teachable moment is exactly the type of parenting Moses is describing.
Find Time to Teach Your Children
Moses talks about walking along the road, but in our day, it can be more applicable to driving along the road.
I have found that the best time to talk to my children can be while driving to and from school. We use the time to memorize Bible verses and talk about Jesus. It is a short amount of time, but it means a lot to my children.
Be Present With Your Children
We can be there when our children wake up, go back to bed at night, and everything in between and still not have been present with our children.
For example, if you eat dinner with your children, but you eat in front of the TV, you aren’t really being present. Sure, you are together, but there isn’t quality interactions.
While your cellphone and television are not bad things, it is damaging to let them interfere with your connection to your children.
We want to be available to our children, not just physically but mentally, too.
Mothers Are Teachers
Psalm 78:5-7 says:
He established a testimony in Jacob
and appointed a law in Israel,
which he commanded our fathers
to teach to their children,
that the next generation might know them,
the children yet unborn,
and arise and tell them to their children,
so that they should set their hope in God
and not forget the works of God,
but keep his commandments;
We, as mothers, are given the huge responsibility of teaching the next generation. We need to raise up the world-changers and leaders that will impact the world for Christ.
I was fortunate to have parents that raised me in this way, but even if you didn’t, this can start with you. You can set the foundation for your family’s future, and you can start living your legacy right now.
Loving Your Children Means Disciplining Them
Loving mothers discipline their children.
In Hebrews 12, the author tells us that we are God’s children, and he says we know that we are God’s children because He disciplines us. If God, the greatest father, disciplines His children, then we should follow His example.
We need to love our children enough to discipline them.
It can be easy to forget about discipline and try to be your child’s best friend, but this is not what we are called to do.
I’ve experienced this with our foster children. They haven’t been with us for very long, and it is hard to build a connection. I want them to like me, so it is difficult to put them in time-out or confiscate a toy.
We still have to provide guidance for our children, though, and although they might not like it now, they will thank us for it later.
Change Your Child’s Heart
I will say that the best discipline is the one aimed at changing a child’s heart rather than just their behavior. This can be difficult when the child’s behavior is embarrassing (like when they throw a tantrum in the store), but changing their hearts is far more effective in the long run.
For example, if your child is struggling with being mean and hurtful, it can be easier to try disciplining them to make them stop. However, it will be more effective to change their hearts.
Some good advice I’ve heard is to remember that it’s okay for your child to see you emotional. They need to know that their words and actions have an effect on others.
If your child says mean things to you, get down on their level and tell them that they hurt your feelings. Say, “That hurt me and made me sad, and because Jesus wants us to be kind, it makes Him sad when you are mean, too.”
Mothers Are Role Models- But We Aren’t Perfect
Deuteronomy 4:9 says, “Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children.”
The Bible is telling us that that we need to teach what we have learned to our children. We teach them with our words, but our children may learn even more from our actions.
Proverbs 10:9 says, “Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.”
We don’t have to be perfect, but we do have to realize that our children are watching us. We are role models for them, and sometimes that is what it takes to encourage us to go in the right direction. When we know there are little eyes watching us, it can help us be more diligent in our Bible reading and Church attendance.
I want you to be encouraged that you don’t have to be an expert on kids. You just need to be a heart that is pointed towards Jesus. If you are a mom with a heart for Jesus, His love is going to naturally pour out into your parenting.
Although I am an adult now, my relationship with my own mother continues to encourage and uplift me because of her commitment to showing me God’s love. Recently when I was going through a difficult time, my mother sent me a message to remind me of the story of Moses, Aaron, and the battle at Hur.
During this battle, Moses had to keep his staff raised, but his arms grew tired. Aaron and a friend brought over a stone for Moses to sit on. Then, they held his arms up when he could no longer do it on his own.
My mother told me that she wanted to be like Aaron. She wanted to help hold up my arms. This helped me to realize that while the role of a mother changes when their kids grow up, the love and encouragement should never cease.
Even if being a mother is a struggle for you right now, be encouraged that if you raise your children God’s way, they will one day call you blessed. They will look back on how you held up their arms and kept them going, and they will be thankful for the Godly influence you had on their lives.