Today we’re talking about something Christian women are constantly nagged about: being confident. But we aren’t talking about self-confidence. We are talking about confidence in Christ.

The world tells us to be self-confident, but that only lasts as long as we don’t fail. Eventually we will. We want to exude the type of confidence that comes from knowing who we are in Christ.

Let Go of False Truth

Let’s talk about what contributes to low confidence.

Confidence comes from knowing what God says about us. We have to let go of what the world says about us to hold onto God’s view of us. Let’s look at three myths that women believe but aren’t true.

Myth #1: I am what people think I am.

Sometimes we believe that what someone says or thinks about us is true. That’s not always the case.

Recently, one of my sons, in a moment of frustration, called the other “useless”. The receiver of this name came to me crying, but it prompted a conversation about not believing unkind things people say about us.

When this happened, I felt God say, “The same is true for you.”

We get into a dangerous place when we believe what other people say about us without lining it up with the Word of God. Everything has to be compared to what God says about us. It’s a choice.

Not everyone has to like you. Not everyone has to approve of you.

On the other hand, if the criticism does line up with God’s Word, accept it as constructive criticism (whether it was presented in love or not).

Myth #2: I’ll never change.

Some people believe their past will dictate their future. They say things like, “I’ll never be a morning person,” or, “I’ve always been the type of mom who yells”.

Your past does not have to dictate your future.

Give God the credit He deserves. He can help you make any change you need to. Look at Paul. God took him from killing Christians to spreading the message of Christ.

Moses is another example. He thought he was disqualified because he had always struggled with stuttering, but with God, he led the Israelites out of Egypt.

No matter how things have been in the past, with God, you can make a positive change in the future.

TIP: If you wouldn’t let your sister/daughter/best friend say it about themselves, don’t say it about yourself!

Myth #3: I have to be perfect in order to be effective.

We get in the habit of thinking that success is all or nothing.

In the past few months, I’ve been making positive changes towards eating healthy and moving my body. One of the things I had to realize was that I didn’t have to be perfect to see results.

Before, I thought that the second I messed up my diet with an unhealthy snack or skipped my workout routine, the entire process was over.

We don’t have to be perfect. One off day will not derail our entire journey. We can still be effective after a momentary setback.

Do your thoughts about you line up with God’s thoughts about you? That’s what this is all about. If your thoughts don’t match up with what God says, you have to choose to let them go.

Our confidence isn’t based on us. It’s based on Him.

If you’re struggling with confidence and want to get deeper into God’s Word, let me recommend my audio Bible study, Walking in Confidence.

There are 21 days of verses and audio to dig into what the Bible says about having confidence in Christ. There is a handy app you can download to take the study with you every day! Listen to it while you fold laundry, run errands, or drive in the car.

Every lesson is applicable to your daily life so you can start using these Bible verses to radically change your confidence.

Beth More said, “The Word of God can change your life, but it can also change your day.”

The more you apply the Word of God to your life, the more joy, peace, and results you’re going to see in your life. You’re going to have more confidence and know who you are in Christ.

I want that for you, and that’s why I’ve priced this Bible study very affordably.

Take these busted myths and start living a more confident life! I can’t wait to talk to you next time.