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A Woman of Intention

Becoming a woman of intention takes work.  On the other hand, it can be easy to let life happen to us. All we have to do is do nothing.  It’s easy to just react to life and let the days pass you by. But days turn into weeks and those weeks turn into months and those months turn into years.
Pretty soon, we find ourselves in a place where we feel like we’re just surviving instead of thriving and we don’t know how to change it.
Change takes time, but it also takes intention.  I want to share three tips to living intentionally.

Begin with a clear vision.

Even though it may seem like a waste of time, vision is absolutely the first place to start. You must determine your core priorities.



I don’t mean a simple numbered list of God first, family second, work third (although that’s a good thing to keep in mind). What I mean is to create a list of goals by priority.


Make sure those priorities are specific and line up with God’s word. Commit your life to him, and I’m not just talking about salvation. When I say commit, I mean making a daily commitment to moving forward in the priorities and the plans you’ve created.


For instance, some of my priorities were to get into a better habit of reading the Bible, to create a peaceful home for my family, and better my 5K running time.  At the heart of these priorities are my relationship with the Lord, my family, and my health, but my goals are more specific than just a list of God first, family second, health third.  Once you have those goals, then envision the future if you met those goals. Look forward to how it will feel when you meet them.


Create a solid start with preparation.

We meticulously plan our vacations, so why don’t we plan our day? If we’re headed on a trip, we reserve hotels, we check the weather, we plan as much as possible. Our day should be the same way. If you don’t control your day, then it controls you.



Tips to plan: First, make sure that your plan is measurable.  Let’s go back to some of the goals I shared earlier.


First, I had a goal of creating a better habit of reading more of the Word. So, I gave myself a goal that felt just a little out of reach. I decided to fill my mind with God’s Word and read the Bible in 90 days.  First, I brainstormed things that needed to be done in order to reach this goal.  Things like:

Find a reading plan that outlines what I should read so I know I’m on track.

Make sure I have the Bible on my iPad so I can take it with me everywhere.

Write where I should be in my reading in my calendar.

Find blocks of wasted time (like TV or Facebook time) that I can dedicate to Bible reading


My second goal was to create a peaceful home for my family. Here are some of my plans:

Make more meals at home.

Have an evening routine that makes the mornings go smoother (like make lunches and pick out clothes for the next day).

Wake up a little earlier than the rest of the family to make sure I get my time with the Lord and don’t feel frazzled.

Declutter for 15 minutes a day so it’s easier to clean my home and also because less stuff = less stress to me.


My third goal was to better my personal best 5K running time, here are some plans:

Run a 5K each Saturday and time it for comparison to previous times.

Incorporate strength training.

Run a variety of different sprints and hills.

Stretch daily.


Take Action.

ACTION this is the most important step.  Imagine a surfer. They can envision how to attack the wave, they can prepare and get all the gear they need and paddle forward when the wave strikes, but unless they take action when the wave comes, nothing will come of it – now that you’ve determined your priorities, and made a plan, you have to follow through on that plan.



A couple bonus tips for you:

Own your vision.

 If you’re finding that you’re reluctant to take the steps toward your goals, then it could be because you own your current comforts more than you own the goals that you’ve created.  Choose to think of the future as if you’ve already accomplished these goals and then let that vision propel you to do better at your daily action steps.


Forget perfection.

If you’re anything like me, if you get anything less than 100%, you just quit, it’s either all or nothing.  But try to let go of that limiting thinking. Aim to meet 85% of your goals, not 100%.  Give yourself some grace.

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